Cohabitating

Oddly enough, the discussion of living with a significant other before marriage has come up quite frequently in recent days.

• A family member is quite concerned that an in-law has plans to move in with her boyfriend.
  

• A lifelong friend answered on a questionnaire: "What’s your goal for the year? move in with ______ and get married in the near future"
  

• A fun blogger that I read is considering the positive financial aspects of moving in with her boyfriend.

I've always had the thought that living together before marriage increases your chance of divorce by 50%.

Maybe that's the old rule of thumb? I just googled it and learned something new. Click here for loads of info. Apparently, odds do increase in certain scenarios, but might DECREASE in others.

I'm against cohabitating before marriage regardless of what it does to your risk of divorce. But that's not that surprising, because I'm against sex before marriage (for multiple reasons).

However, if you're fine with sex before marriage, why not live together? It's a good question. What's the difference, really?




Mr Oh and I have been married for almost six months. That means we've lived together for almost six months. It's neat to share something so important. We both live here, so we both have to contribute. It's OUR place. And even though we're just renting (for now...), it's important that we share ideas so that we're both happy here (for now....).

I think being married makes the whole living together process much more exciting, special, and comforting. So many things are new, but they're new to both of you. It's a fun experience. I recommend it. :)